2-2-8-Counseling Issues
The Parable of the Weeds Explained
Read Matthew 13:36-43
At the end of the world, angels will separate the evil from the good. There are true and false believers in churches today, but we should be cautious in our judgments because only Christ is qualified to make the final separation. If you start judging, you may damage some of the good "plants." It's more important to judge our own response to God then to analyze others' responses.
Jesus often uses these terms to refer to the coming judgment. The weeping indicates sorrow or remorse, and gnashing of teeth shows extreme anxiety or pain. Those who say they don't care what happens to them after they die don't realize what they are saying. They will be punished for living in selfishness and indifference to God.
Those who receive God's favor stand in bright contrast to those who receive his judgment. A similar illustration is used in Daniel 12:3.
Application:
The righteous will shine like the sun in the kingdom of their Father.... Matthew 13:43
Some people have a special shining, that changes people when they enter a room. They have a spirit that brings peace. They have an awareness of God's presence in their own lives that brings peace to everyone around them.
Ask Him to use you to help someone, relive someone's burdens, make God's ever-present Spirit real in someone's life.
Lord, help me to be filled with Your peace and show Your love and concern to people I make contact with.
Jesus tells the parable of hidden treasure
Read Matthew 13:44
The kingdom of heaven is more valuable than anything else we can have, and a person must be willing to give up everything to obtain it. The man who discovered the treasure in the field stumbled upon it by accident but knew it's value when he found it.
[A man] sold all he had and bought that field. Matthew 13:44
Remember how pleased you felt when you got a terrific buy at a flea market? Then you know how excited this man got as he happened upon a valuable treasure. This man secretly secured the object by selling everything he owned in order to have enough purchase money. This man is not risking or sacrificing anything, for he knows that the intrinsic value of the object far surpasses his total wealth. Having bought the desired object with all his money, this man goes home rejoicing.
Jesus is our treasure. The only Son of God the Father, He willingly took on our nature, lived among us, suffered and died on the cross in our place, and - His work accomplished - rose from the dead and ascended to the Father in glory. Because of Jesus, we are no longer God’s fallen creatures but His adopted children and heirs of His kingdom. We know that salvation in Christ is a gift and cannot be bought at any price. But in our pleasure over possessing that gift, we offer our whole heart to the Giver.
Dearest Jesus, I rejoice in You as my priceless treasure. In Your name I pray. Amen.
Compared to the man and the merchant, how valuable is the kingdom to you and why: (a) It's worth more than anything else? (b) I think I'd miss too many of the other things? (c) I'm not ready to carry all this so far? What does it mean to "sell everything" for the Kingdom?
Jesus tells the parable of the pearl merchant.
Read Matthew 13: 45, 46
The merchant was earnestly searching for the pearl of great value and, when he found it, he sold everything he had to purchase it.
Application:
Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it. - Matthew 13:46
Make pearls, by spending time with kids.
Father, use my time, provide the words to turn Your children into pearls.
Jesus tells the parable of the fishing net.
Read Matthew 13:47-52
The parable of the fishing net has the same meaning as the same meaning as the parable of the wheat and weeds. We are to obey God and tell others about his grace and goodness, but we cannot dictate who is part of the kingdom of heaven and who is not. This sorting will be done at the last judgment by those infinitely more qualified than we.
Anyone who understands God's real purpose in the law as revealed in the Old Testament has a real treasure. The Old Testament points the way to Jesus, the messiah. Jesus always upheld its authority and relevance. But there is a double benefit to those who understand Jesus' teaching about the kingdom of heaven.
This was a new treasure that Jesus was revealing. Both the old and new teaching give practical guidelines for faith and for living in the world. The religious leaders, however, were trapped in the old and blind to the new. They were looking for a future kingdom preceded by judgment. Jesus, however, taught that the Kingdom was NOW and the judgment was future. The religious leaders were looking for a physical and temporal kingdom (via military rebellion and physical rule), but they were blind to the spiritual significance of the Kingdom that Christ brought.
The kingdom of heaven is like a net that was let down into the lake and caught all kinds of fish. Matthew 13:47
The Christian church in many ways is like a net moving through a lake, catching all sorts of marine animals and inanimate objects. The church sweeps across the world to take in people of every kind who profess Jesus as their Savior and Lord, baptizing them in His name. After hauling in the filled net, the fishermen sort the catch and save only the fish that are good for their trade.
When the appointed time comes, Jesus will return with angels and separate the true believers from those who, under cover of a pretense, knowingly and repeatedly refused His salvation won on the cross. The believers will be saved; the imposters will not.
If the church is like a net, then we live in the dragging time, when the church proclaims the Gospel and brings many into the faith community. We participate in this great gathering movement when we speak of Jesus to someone who does not yet know Him. We welcome newcomers to the church, encourage them to study God’s Word and come to Christ’s Table, and we pray for their faith to mature. We eagerly look forward to His coming in glory to claim us as His own.
I am one of Your little fish, dear Jesus. Thank You for catching me in Your net of grace. Amen.
What does the parable of the net teach about the value of the kingdom? With what emotion and energy should it be pursued?
How does it compare with the parable of the weeds?
Who are the teachers of the old law who have been instructed in the new gospel (v. 52).
Jesus calms the storm
Read Matthew 8:23-27
This would have been a fishing boat because many of Jesus' disciples were fishermen. Josephus, an ancient historian, wrote that there were usually more than 300 fishing boats on the Sea of Galilee at one time. This boat was large enough to hold Jesus and his 12 disciples and was powered both by oars and sails. During a storm, however, the sails were taken down to keep them from ripping and to make the boat easier to control.
The Sea of Galilee is an unusual body of water. It is relatively small (13 miles long, 7 miles wide), but it is 150 feet deep, and the shoreline is 680 feet below sea level. Sudden storms can appear over the surrounding mountains with little warning, stirring the water into violent 20 ft. waves. The disciples had not foolishly set out in a storm. They had been caught without warning, and their danger was great.
Although the disciples had witnessed many miracles, they panicked in this storm. as experienced sailors, they knew its danger; what they did not know was that Christ could control the forces of nature and the storms of the troubled heart. Jesus power that calmed this storm can also help us deal with the problems we face. Jesus is willing to help if we only ask him. We should never discount his power even in terrible trials.
[Jesus] replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” - Matthew 8:26
Like most of us, Matthew has a story to tell about getting caught in a violent storm. He tells of huge waves crashing over a boat. He relates how Jesus, as Lord over nature, scolded the waves into submission. Just as memorable as that miracle, Matthew recalls, was the lesson in discipleship that Jesus taught him and the other discipleship that Jesus taught him and the other disciples at the height of the storm. “You of little faith,” Jesus said when in terror they cried to Him to save them from drowning. He was right there with them in the boat. Their fear revealed a lack of trust. They should have trusted Him completely.
Through Matthew’s account, Jesus tells us modern-day disciples that He will lead us safely through every severe storm of life. Such a storm could break over us while we are boating. More often it comes in the form of family trouble, a serious illness, or poverty. Jesus knows that we are imperfect disciples who trust Him, while still being afraid of going under in the storm. But Jesus invites us to follow Him, and continually in love He forgives our sins through His cross. He works greater faith in us through His Holy Spirit’s activity in the Word.
Loving Father, by the Spirit’s power, help this storm-tossed disciple to trust Jesus my Savior more and more each day. Amen.
What are the disciples feeling as this storm begins? As it whips up? When Jesus silences it?
What was Jesus teaching them by sleeping through the storm? By rebuking it?
How might the disciples feel as the continue across the lake? When they meet these men?
When circumstantial clouds darken your life do you sense the Son still shining? Or does he seem asleep? Why might it feel that way?
What do you learn about Jesus from these stories? How does that relate to the times you face evil?
What "storms" or "demons" seem to much for you to handle now?
Read Mark 4:35-41
The disciples (seasoned fisherman who spent their lives fishing) panicked because the storm threatened to destroy them all, and Jesus seemed unaware and unconcerned. Theirs was a physical storm, but storms come in other forms. Think about the storms in your life - the situations that cause you great anxiety. Whatever your difficulty, hou have two options. You can worry and assume that Jesus no longer cares, or you can resist fear, putting your trust in him. When you feel like panicking, confess your need for God and then trust him to care for you.
The disciples lived with Jesus, but they underestimated him. They did not see that his power applied to their very own situation. The disciples, underestimate his power to handle crises in our lives. The disciples did not yet know enough about Jesus. We cannot make the same excuse.
Teacher, don’t You care if we drown? Mark 4:38
What a storm! The disciples were worried. Things weren’t going as planned! Even though they knew the sea and were experienced fishermen, they were in trouble. They couldn’t handle this storm, and their boat couldn’t weather it either. So they cried out to Jesus, who was asleep in their boat, “Teacher,, don’t You care if we drown?”
We often ask the same question when things in our life aren’t going as planned, when things in our life aren’t going as planned, when we are in trouble or feeling overwhelmed. We, too, ask, “Jesus, don’t You care?”” But He does care, and the proof of that is that He is lying with His disciples in that boat. The proof is that He is here with us. He came to us in His incarnation because He DOES care.
We may be tempted to doubt His love and concern for us, but at such times we need only look to the manger and the cross, knowing it was His choice to come and die for us. He did so because He cared. He did so out of great love. And if Jesus gave His life for us, will He not also graciously give us all things that we truly need (Romans 8:32)?
Lord, I believe; help me in my times of doubt.
Application
[Jesus] arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm. - Mark 4:39
When storms of life buffet you; trust your Anchor - the One Who, as William Cowper wrote, "plants his footsteps in the sea, and rides upon the storm." He hold us secure in the palm of His hand.
What emotions did the disciples feel as this storm raged on and on? What did they want from Jesus? How do you picture their faces in verses 39-41? Which would frighten you more - the storm or Jesus?
What was Jesus showing them about himself in all this?
How do you react to Jesus when he seems to be asleep in your life?
Read Luke 8:22-25
When caught in the storms of life, it is easy to think that God has lost control and that we're at the mercy of the winds of fate. In reality, God is sovereign. He controls the history of the world as well as our personal destines. Just as Jesus calmed the waves, he can calm whatever storms you may face.
What is Jesus teaching his disciples by ignoring and then rebuking the storm?
Why is Jesus upset?
What emotions hinder faith? Accompany it? Why?
Physical and Emotional Issues in Counseling
Professional counseling deals with physical and emotional problems. Occasionally, Church leaders may need to deal with these types of problems. This lesson will explain some of the different types of physical and emotional problems. It offers practical suggestions for ministers that deal with them. Also, you will learn how to identify severe problems. Suicide and referrals are the final issues dealt with in this lesson. The Church leader should know his limitations, yet be equipped to minister under God's leadership.
There are two primary benefits of this lesson for the pastor or elder. First, practical suggestions will allow you to handle certain crisis situations. Second, you will learn your limitations and know when to refer. This is important. If we try to go beyond our abilities, we may harm more than help. In being able to identify a severe problem, we can direct that person to the proper help.
Objectives
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Describe the two major areas in which we practice physical counseling.
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List the four areas that can prevent many physical problems.
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Discuss the issue of healing from a Biblical perspective.
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Identify the three most common emotional problems and the Biblical prescription for each.
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List the five symptoms that could point to severe emotional problems.
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List the signs of suicide and the responsibility of the counselor.
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Explain when a Church leader should make a referral.
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Define the four types of professional counselors.
Most people seek the help of pastors and Church leaders in spiritual issues. Occasionally, however, there will also be those with physical and emotional needs. We need to prepare to help those for whom we are responsible in the Body of Christ.
In some cases, we will be able to give counsel and minister to their needs ourselves. In other cases, we should refer them to a professional who is competent in the area of need. In this lesson, we will look at some physical and emotional issues in counseling. We will also discuss how and when to make referrals in each of these areas.
Physical Issues
Our ministry to people with physical needs may be broken down into two areas: prevention and healing. The Word of God speaks on both of these concerns.
Prevention
To minister to those with physical needs, we need to understand how God views our physical beings. The Bible gives three very specific descriptions. First, we are created in the image of God with a special purpose (Genesis 1:26-28). Second when we receive Christ, we become filled with the Holy Spirit. We become the property of Christ, releasing all claims to ourselves (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Third, we are to grow into a holy, living sacrifice to present to God (Romans 12:1).
Many people are experiencing physical problems either as a result of sickness or abuse of their bodies. We must help them gain a Biblical view of their bodies. In this way, they will learn how to prevent physical problems. Some common causes of physical problems are diet, alcohol, drugs, exercise, personal hygiene and immunization.
Diet - The Scriptures speak about abusing your body by overeating (Proverbs 23:21; Philippians 3:19). Medical studies have shown that being overweight can cause heart problems, high blood pressure, adult diabetes, and many other physical problems.
Not eating enough of the right foods may also lead to physical problems. In recent years, eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia have become alarmingly common among teens and young adults.
Preventing physical problems through diet includes eating nutritiously. We must help people see the importance of eating well balanced meals for maintaining physical health. In this way, we may help them glorify God in their bodies.
Misuse of Alcohol and Drugs - The Word of God clearly warns about the abuse of alcohol (Proverbs 23:20-35; Galatians 5:19-21). Alcohol abuse will destroy your physical health. It also affect your social life. It will destroy your family, your job, and many other areas of your life.
Misuse or abuse of drugs has similar results. This may include illegal drugs, prescription drugs, and non-prescription drugs. We need to be familiar with signs of drug abuse or dependency. We must recommend help for people with this problem.
Prevention would include recognizing the early warning signals before an addiction takes place. If they already have an addiction, we should make every effort to help them find professional help. There are many excellent treatment programs and counseling in this area. We will address this later when discussing referrals.
Exercise - Another means of preventing physical problems is regular physical exercise. Exercise is very important to good health. It helps control weight, increases physical stamina and mental alertness, and helps people feel good about themselves. Remember that people over 30 years of age should consult a physician before beginning a rigorous exercise program.
Personal Hygiene and Immunization - Hygiene is important for maintaining good physical health. We nay be able to offer our help to those who are not familiar with good practices of hygiene. Bathing, brushing your teeth and washing your hair are very important to good health. This is a rather sensitive topic. We should deal with it in a non-threatening, loving way.
Immunization from communicable diseases is something most of us take for granted. However, many immigrants do not understand immunization for preventing physical illness. This is one area in which we need to be aware of community services and public health guidelines. We want to be able to help those who are not aware these practices due to language and culture barriers. You can have a ministry to refugees or the economically and socially disadvantages by helping them prevent poor physical health.
"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" is true! Knowing how to help others gently is important in this area. We can then glorify God in our physical bodies.
Healing
In spite of preventive measures, people do get sick. Disease and illness are a result of the fall of man (Genesis 3:16-19; Romans 8:22-23). Sin has contaminated our world and released the destructive forces of sickness and death. All people have accidents, contract diseases, and become ill.
We must prepare to teach them about divine healing as well as modern medicine when these happen. We certainly do not want to discourage people from seeking available medical care for physical illness. We must also be very careful not to push our own beliefs concerning healing onto another in any situation.
The Scriptures do teach about divine healing (James 5:14-15). There are many occasions recorded in the Bible where God restored the sick (Matthew 8:14-17). Yet, God also chose not to heal some (2 Corinthians 12:8-9). We cannot promise God's healing to those who have physical problems. We can, however, promise that God will be with them in whatever they face (Hebrews 13:5b).
We must now make an important distinction between divine healing and "faith healing." Faith healers emphasize the one desiring healing. In divine healing, the emphasis is on the One who heals, God Almighty. Therefore, physical healing depends on God, not on how much faith a person has.
God may not choose to use a miracle at all. He may choose to bring about healing through modern medicine. One of the disciples was even a physician (Colossians 4:14).
Dr. Keith M. Bailey, in his book The Children's Bread, writes:
The Bible does not prohibit the Christian from consulting a physician or using medical means in the treatment of illness, nor does it specifically state that the use of natural means is a deterrent to faith for divine healing. (1977:179)
Baily goes on to quote S. D. Gordon in saying, "Christ heals through means and the skilled human expert, sometimes." (1977:185).
Most persons seek the help of pastors and Church leaders in spiritual concerns. This is not the only issue that will require your counseling services, however. Other than spiritual needs, what two other issues does counseling involve?
Under the area of physical problems requiring counseling, there are two concerns.
To minister to those with physical problems, we must understand how God sees our physical bodies. The Bible lists three perspectives. List them.
There are four areas that will allow the counselor to help prevent physical problems. What are they?
Diet is one of the ways to prevent physical problems. Is the statements concerning diet true or false? You can become malnourished if you do not eat enough, but eating too much is Biblical. We are to eat, drink and be merry.
Abuse of drugs and alcohol is an alarming physical problem today. It also affects the social life, emotional health and spiritual walk of everybody under an addiction. Prevention includes one major factor?
Some people do not recognize exercise as a preventive measure against physical problems. It has many positive effects on all areas of our life, however. List the four benefits we receive from exercise, other than good health.
Many times, people lack knowledge about personal hygiene and immunization from disease. Those with a ministry to the socially and economically disadvantaged will need to hygiene do we need to teach?
Even with preventive measures, people still get sick and have accidents. What is the ministry we need to teach about when mishaps or disease strike?
Into what two areas is personal healing divided?
The Word of God teaches healing. How would you describe this to someone?
Emotional Issues
In addition to spiritual and physical problems, people may need help with emotional problems. We need to be able to discern between the moderate and severe problems. We may be able to help the person with moderate emotional problems. The severe and complex problems, however, will require the help of someone more qualified in this area. We will also discuss suicide. It is a problem which is becoming more and more prevalent in today's society.
Moderate Emotional Problems
In this section, we will discuss three common emotional problems we often see in counseling. Of course, there are other problems which we might include in this class of emotional issues. We will not have time nor space to consider them in this lesson.
Guilt Guilt is a common emotional problem for many people. There are two types of guilt, real and false. Real guilt is the result of a spiritual problem. It is real guilt which makes individuals aware of their need for confession and forgiveness. God is always ready to forgive our sins (1 John 1:9). The way to deal with real guilt is to confess our sin to God and seek His forgiveness. often people need reassurance of God's forgiveness from Scripture. You need to be ready to use Scripture to give them the assurance they need.
Sometimes harm or offense comes because of the sin. In this case, they must go to the others involved. Healing personal relationships is the first step in reconciling with God. They must ask forgiveness and make restitution. Both are necessary for emotional health.
Confession and forgiveness are the solution to the problem of real guilt. However, we may also meet those who are experiencing false guilt. False guilt is experiencing guilt over a matter where there is no wrong. There is no intentional fault. For example, a person may feel guilty for having run over a dog. The person was obeying the speed limit and driving carefully. The owner of the pet left the animal unleashed. It darted in front of the car. There is no reason to feel guilty. The person who hit the animal may feel sad for the pet's owner but not guilty. In cases like this, we must help the people see they have done no wrong. They do not have to feel guilty.
People also experience false guilt if they are taught something is wrong when it is not. When this happens, we need to show them what the Word of God says.
An example is the woman who feels guilty for attending Church without wearing a dress. This lady was taught that dressing up shows respect for God. She thought a skirt or slacks was disrespectful. The Bible tells us the Lord does not see the way man often sees. Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart attitude (1 Samuel 16:7).
As Christians, we may help those we counsel by pointing out the difference between real and false guilt. We can lead them to confession and forgiveness in cases of real guilt. We can help them find release by exposing their false guilt.
Anxiety and Worry - Anxiety and worry are two other types of emotional problems people often experience. One must understand the difference between these two emotions and fear. Fear is a reaction to a specific stimulus. For example, if someone attacks me with a knife, a natural reaction is fear. On the other hand, anxiety and worry are underlying reactions without a specific stimulus. An anxious person may feel afraid without an immediate threat to their safety. Anxiety is a fear without cause.
Fear is normal and healthy. It is a reaction to anything that threatens our safety and well being. People should be afraid of situations which could harm them physically. It is fear that keeps us from stepping off cliffs or stepping in front of an oncoming car.
Anxiety and worry over events that may never happen and do not threaten our immediate safety are abnormal. A person who worries needs help. Sometimes, anxiety may become so severe that the person cannot function in the normal routines of life. We may need to refer hese people to a counseling professional.
Mild anxiety, on the other hand, we may be able to help. First, carefully listen to the person and ask probing questions to understand the worry. We may help the person look at the situation realistically. Often this helps a person to see the anxiety is without cause and brings emotional relief.
We may also show the anxious person verses from the Scriptures which comfort and strengthen their trust in God. As we do this, we need to be careful not to offer these Scripture verses as pat answers. The most effective means of helping the anxious person may be modeling trust in your own life.
Finally, we should pray that the Lord will help them see the situation realistically, from His perspective. We should also pray that they would allow the Holy Spirit to control them. This can produce the peace of God in their lives. of course, we also need to commit their concerns to the Lord. Our prayers may help them receive the assurance they need to cope with the situation in a productive way.
Depression. - A third common emotional problem is depression. We may classify depression into three classes depending upon its seriousness: mild, acute, and chronic. Acute depression is a deep or severe depression which may result in a person becoming suicidal. Chronic depression is a long term depression that may be continuous or repetitive. Both acute and chronic depression are serious problems. We will discuss these later. Persons experiencing acute depression or chronic depression need professional help.
Mild Depression is a common problem we may notice more often in those we counsel. This kind of depression often follows a loss or a crisis in a person's life. The death of a loved one, the loss of a job, a divorce, or a family crisis may trigger depression. People may also experience mild depression following major surgery, childbirth, or some other physically draining experience. With depression of this type, the person usually recovers in a short time.
Encouragement and support are important in ministering to persons experiencing mild depression. They need reassurance. We must help people focus on solutions rather than the problems. They need to focus their thoughts outside themselves.
A well known psychiatrist was once asked what he would do if he felt himself becoming depressed. He replied that he would look for someone he could help. People experiencing depression tend to focus on themselves and their problems. There is therapeutic value in reaching outside oneself during a time of personal need. For example, a woman who loses her husband needs to find another widow (or person experiencing loss). She can then mister to them rather than focusing on her own loss.
We will discuss moderate and severe emotional problems. With which of these can a Church leader or lay counselor usually deal?
In discussing moderate emotional problems, what three areas did we cover?
Which subjects did we cover under the heading of guilt?
What type of guilt do people have when they need to make a confession and restitution?
There are basically two reasons a person may have false guilt. name these two.
Anxiety or worry is another moderate emotional problem. It can be moderate or disabilitating needing professional help. How does it differ from fear?
There are three ways to deal with mild anxiety. Fill in the blanks to complete the three steps.
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Carefully listen and try to the person's worry.
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Show the person to strengthen their trust in the Lord.
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that the Lord will help the person see the situation realistically, from His perspective.
There are three classes of depression. Some are mild enough for us to offer help. Provide a brief description.
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Mild:
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Acute:
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Chronic:
There are basically two ways we can help the person with mild depression. List these.
Severe Emotional Problems
Most people feel those with severe emotional problems need professional counseling. The question we face is, "How do we recognize severe emotional problems?" Extreme cases and truly bizarre behavior are fairly obvious. However, many persons experiencing severe emotional problems may appear quite normal to most people. The common symptoms of severe disorders fall into five basic areas..
Faulty Perception
A person may report feeling, hearing, or seeing objects that do not exist. For example, a person may report hearing voices when no one is speaking. People may also have distorted perception. They may be hearing, seeing, or feeling to a much greater or lesser degree than a normal person.
people suffering from emotional problems may also experience disorientation. They may not know where they are in either time or space. They may not know where they are in either time or space. They may not know why they are where they are. This person is not perceiving reality.
Distorted Thinking
These persons may experience irrational fears. For example, a person may be afraid any bridge they cross will collapse. They may think they will get an infectious disease from anyone they touch or that all drinking water is unsanitary.
People may also experience false beliefs. Two common beliefs are delusions of grandeur and delusions of persecution. Delusions of grandeur occur when people believe they are someone important or famous. They may also believe they have some power or secret.
people who suffer from delusions of persecution think others are out to get them. They may think their pursuers are from other planets, the mafia, the CIA, Foreign spies or some other enemy force. At times, they may even think a family member or coworker is against them.
Obsession is another is another form of distorted thinking. Obsessions are unpleasant thoughts or urges that recur. For example, a person may have a constant urge to place his hand in a fire or jump from a high place.
Faulty Emotional Expression
This may take the form of not showing any emotional responses to anything. At other times, it may take the form of exaggerated emotions.
This person may laugh uproariously at something that is only mildly humorous. They may weep over something only mildly sad, or become extremely angry over some minor incident. Such a person may also express inappropriate emotions. He or she may laugh at a serious or tragic situation or become very sad in a humorous situation.
Another form of faulty emotional expression is wide mood swings over brief periods. Acute and chronic depression involve faulty emotional expressions and are serious problems.
Unusual Activity Levels
This person is more or less active than normal. he may be hyperactive or lethargic. Compulsive behavior, or the same behavior expressed over and over (inappropriately), is another expression of emotional problems.
Antisocial Behavior
This would include aggressive or violent behavior. Antisocial behavior may also include dressing in an odd fashion or acting in an unusually obnoxious manner. (Be careful here. many bizarre fashions are in style among otherwise normal younger people). Other behaviors which might show problems are withdrawal or inattentiveness; tuning others out entirely.
We must give a word of caution here.
Every one of us has exhibited one or more of these behaviors from time to time. There are times when each of us has behaved inappropriately due to physical or emotional fatigue and pressure. We should, however, concern ourselves when there are several symptoms or the display of symptoms over an extended period.
One should also be careful not to make assumptions or draw conclusions if these symptoms appear in someone you know. There are actual physiological causes which may cause a person to behave erratically or inappropriately. Some chemical imbalances, hormonal disorders, and various diseases may result in some of these behaviors.
most of us realize that those with severe emotional problems need professional counseling. The problem is being able to recognize the severe problems. We organize the common symptoms into five groups. List these.
Distorted thinking can reveal itself in many different ways. What is the ways the text mentioned?
There are three ways that faulty emotional expression reveals itself. List these three.
Lethargic, hyperactive, and compulsive are three words that describe the next symptom of severe emotional problems.
The last symptom, antisocial behavior, shows forth in two almost opposite ways. List the two words that best describe the antisocial person.
Of course, we have all exhibited some of these at one time or another. This does not mean that we have severe emotional problems. Some times these symptoms may arise because of a completely different cause. if it is not an emotional cause, what else could it be?
Suicide
Suicide has become increasingly prevalent in our society. It is the number one cause of death among young people, ages 15 to 24. Suicide is on the rise among preteen children as well. There are fewer murders than suicides in America. Recent estimates say that over 30,000 people per year commit suicide in America today. Many experts believe the actual number of suicides is even higher.
Persons who are suicidal need help. How do we know if a person is suicidal? There are some symptoms common to many suicidal individuals.
Talking about committing suicide
Most of the people who succeed in committing suicide have told someone about it first. If someone tells you they are contemplating suicide or that they are going to take their own life, take the threat seriously! Treat such persons as if they intend to carry out their expressed intentions. Ask them how they plan to do it. If they have specific and realistic plans, they need immediate help. Explain to them your concern and that you will tell their spouse, parent, child, or other responsible persons. Many states also require you to contact the police.
References to death or not being around much longer.
Listen for such expressions. For example, "life is not worth living any more. I'd be better off dead. I will not be around much longer. I cannot hang on much longer." Therefore, we must take these expressions in the context of the person's total life.
Putting all of one's affairs in order
Some will suddenly become concerned about preparing wills and life insurance policies or giving away personal belongings. This may show that they are preparing for their own death. These persons may disassociate themselves from family and friends as they contemplate suicide.
Persons in deep depression
These people face a higher risk of suicide. Alcoholics and drug abusers are also in a high risk group for suicide. Those who are terminally ill or suffering from extreme physical pain may also consider suicide as a relief. We need to be sensitive to those in such situations.
If we suspect a person is considering suicide, we should ask them if they are thinking about suicide. Again, if they say they have thought about it, we should ask them how they plan to carry out their intentions. By asking, you may be able to intervene by getting help for them.
If you believe a person is about to try suicide and has the means to do so, do not leave them alone. Stay with the person until you can get help. If you receive a phone call from someone who says they are about to commit suicide, do not hang up to get help. Keep talking with the person until someone else can get there. If you hang up, the person may feel cut off and carry through with their plans. Remain calm and offer the person hope. You may talk the person out of suicide. They would not have called if they did not want help.
The statistics show that suicide is a severe emotional problem with which we must deal. It is epidemic in proportion. List some of the statistics that show this to be true.
One way to help the suicidal person is to know the warning signs. Very few people kill themselves before giving society and their loved ones many cries for help. Most people, however, mask their cries. List the four major warning signs.
If someone tells you they are planning on taking their life, what should we do?
Many of us joke, using references to suicide. The problem may be that one of those people in our circle of friends may actually hide some truth behind his/her humor. In what context must we always test these comments?
Note: Sometimes the events that adults see as trivial and unimportant are life threatening to some. Internally unstable people use the smallest events or feelings to justify suicide. There have been many young people take their life for causes that faffle us. For example, breaking up with a girlfriend or rejection by peers. Other examples are drugs, gangs, the occult and the pressure that accompanies them. Even the pressure placed on a youth by his parents may push a teenager over the edge. We must be wise and perceptive, yet, be careful not to see every problem as a step to suicide. Take some further study using books and seminars on this issue.
The third warning sign is putting ones affairs in order. This is actually a preparation for death. A person in this stage is dangerously close to suicide. For what do we need to watch?
There are some groups of people who are under a higher risk than others. We should be sensitive to these people. What groups do we include here.
Making Referrals
If a person came to us with a toothache, we would not try to fill or pull the tooth. Instead, we would send the person to a dentist. If a person came to us with a legal problem, we would recommend they see a lawyer. In the same way, we need to refer a person with a severe emotional problem, to a person that can help him. This is the job for a competent professional counselor,
The big question is, "Where and how do we find a competent professional counselor?" As Church leaders, we may be able to refer such persons to our pastors, who should know where to find appropriate help. Pastors may refer persons to other pastors who have the special training or experience in counseling. If we know of competent professional counselors, we may refer a person directly.
We must be aware of the professional counseling help available to us. There are four basic types of professional counselors.
A psychiatrist is a medical doctor with additional training in psychiatry. As a medical doctor, a psychiatrist can prescribe medication and explore the chance of physical causes.
A clinical psychologist usually holds a doctorate (Ph. D.) in psychology and has served at least one year of internship in counseling.
A psychiatric social worker usually holds a Master of Social Work (M.S.W.). This involves study in social work and psychotheraphy, along with an internship.
Marriage and family therapists have a variety of levels of training. Most have at least a master's degree and some supervised practice in counseling.
We may also need to refer individuals to physicians, lawyers, accountants, or other professionals. These have the expertise to help them with problems related to their fields. It would be wise to develop a list of some competent, and hopefully Christian, persons in these professions.
We should usually refer individuals to their own physicians, lawyers, or accountants. If they request a referral from us, suggest someone from your referral list.
We should also try to locate Christian counselors in our city or area. If there are none, we should find secular counselors who will respect the faith of their clients. An awareness of the social agencies and other resources in our communities may be helpful for referrals. It is wise to develop a network of professionals and agencies before the need for such services arises.
When making a referral, we should respect the wishes of the other person. We should pray with and for the person who is seeking help. Remember, all of this must be done in the strictest of confidence.
It is not a sign of weakness or incompetency to refer a person to professionals with skills and abilities to help. It is really just the opposite. Our ministry as Church leaders is not all encompassing. List some groups of people to whom we could refer others.
There are basically four different types of professional counselors. Provide a brief description.
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Psychiatrist
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Clinical Psychologist
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Psychiatric Social Worker
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Marriage & Family Therapists
Sometimes, a professional counselor can not help the person alone. Often we must call in other professional to help with the immediate problems. Who might these be?
In conclusion, we should hold hold three ideas as very important. What did the last paragraph list?
Testimony
BIO:Robert Murray McCheyne 1813-1843
Robert Murray McCheyne was born in Edinburgh, Scotland, May 21,
1813. He taught himself the Greek alphabet at the age of four. He later
distinguished himself as a student of Edin- burgh University.
McCheyne became pastor of St. Peter's Church of Dundee, Scotland
(Presbyterian), in 1836, after being li- censed to preach by the
Presbytery of Annan on July 1, 1835. At age 24, he became a member of a
mission of inquiry to study the best means of evangelizing the Jews,
and visited Palestine for this purpose. While there, he became ill and
devoted much of his time to praying for his flock.
And, the famous revival in Dundee began in his church under the
ministry of William C. Burns. It continued under McCheyne. The whole
city was moved. No less than 39 prayer meetings were held weekly in
connection with this church, of which five were carried on wholly by
children.
McCheyne died of typhus March 25, 1843. He is buried in the
churchyard of St. Peter's. His monument contains the words: "...who
died in the thirtieth year of his age and the seventh of his ministry,
walking closely with God, an example of the believers in word, in
conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity, he ceased not
day and night to labor and watch for souls, and was honored by his Lord
to draw many wanderers out of darkness and to the path of life."
One of the most notable characteristics of the man was the holy
consistency of his daily walk. He has been called "one of the loveliest
specimens of the Spirit's work- manship." The secret of this was his
habitual dependence upon the Spirit of God.